{"id":69,"date":"2016-01-17T23:01:20","date_gmt":"2016-01-17T23:01:20","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/dz.cyberwalker.com\/parents-of-depressed-teens\/2016\/01\/17\/how-to-easily-resolve-an-upset-with-someone-you-love\/"},"modified":"2016-02-22T16:50:54","modified_gmt":"2016-02-22T16:50:54","slug":"how-to-easily-resolve-an-upset-with-someone-you-love","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mydepressionzone.com\/parents-of-depressed-teens\/how-to-easily-resolve-an-upset-with-someone-you-love\/","title":{"rendered":"How to resolve an upset with someone you love"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Learn how to\u00a0easily resolve an upset with someone you love.\u00a0Here are the steps to reconciliation after a disagreement or misunderstanding that has resulted in anger or\u00a0broken an otherwise loving or lose relationship with family or a good friend.<\/p>\n

NOTE: While this exercise was written for is for depression fighters<\/strong> and their caregivers<\/strong>, it can work for anyone.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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1) First, take responsibility<\/strong> for not “getting” them, even if you think you have. They don’t think you have, so you haven’t in their eyes. Let them be right.<\/span><\/div>\n
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2) Listen to what they have to say about the situation and look at where you can improve<\/strong> how you are supporting them. Ask them where you’ve failed to do this. And where you have succeeded. Have a frank conversation.<\/span><\/div>\n
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3) Repeat what they ask for<\/strong> back to them. Use their words<\/span> so they know they have been heard. (This is critical.) If they say: “I need you to stop nagging me.” Say “Ok I understand – I need to stop nagging you. And I will.” \u00a0Not: “I will stop bugging you to get off the couch.” Use the exact words they use. Only then will they know they have been heard by you.\u00a0<\/span><\/div>\n
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4) Tell them you want to work with them as a team<\/strong> – together, to get them well. Ask for their buy in. If this isn’t a depressed person, find out what they are struggling with and offer to be a teammate on that.<\/span><\/div>\n
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5) Tell them you’ll do whatever it takes<\/strong> to get them well. Ask for a commitment from them to get well, and do what it takes.<\/span><\/div>\n
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6) Finally, tell them you are out to become an expert in depression<\/strong> (or their problem issue) because knowledge is your secret weapon in this fight. You can’t win unless you know the enemy extremely well. \u00a0<\/span><\/div>\n
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